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3 Questions to Deepen Relationships

August 18, 2011

These aren’t questions to evaluate your relationship or anything like that, rather, these are questions to ask each other to improve the relationship.  You can ask them to your family at the dinner table, you can ask your spouse, your boyfriend or girlfriend, your roommate, good friend, whoever.  The more often (ideally daily) they are asked, the better.  Here they are with a little explanation:

What was the best part of your day?

This  allows you to see what is important to them.  You can see patterns in what excites them and what matters to them.  It gives you something to celebrate together, an important part of building relationships.

What was the worst part of your day?

Similarly, this allows to see what is hard on them, what things bug them.  It’s a time of learning as well as an opportunity to share in that problem or pain. (Maybe even just listening).

How did you see God work in or around you today?

This is a great question because it gets people to have a different perspective.  They begin to look for what God is doing around them which is important.  (If you’re dating this also helps evaluate where they are spiritually over time).  This question gets better when continually asked.  The person begins to look for God in their everyday so that they know what they are going to say when you ask.

Finally, all of these questions help develop healthy communication.  You know what is going on in their life, and you’re learning about them while doing it.

I call it “best part, worst part, God part.”  Try them out, let me know what you think.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. August 18, 2011 9:07 AM

    Nice bro.

  2. August 18, 2011 9:53 AM

    This is awesome Dan! You come up with this yourself?

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